2020 is almost here, and that’s a wonderful number. It deserves some looking back and reflecting, and maybe a vision for your upcoming decade. Maybe you’re planning to go out to gym every morning and lose weight? Finish all the projects, do all the courses, study all the aspects of art, read all the books and be the best version of yourself?
Sure thing, do all those things.
It can be inspiring to set up goals.
But once you have put down all the things you want to do, do you know what are going to be the most important to you? You have to start from something and your time is limited.
How do you choose the right project to do first? And do you chop out the time from the exercise or from somewhere else? How will planning those things sit with another possible goal of taking care of your health?
How on earth can you decide what’s right with all of these ideas? It would be terrible to waste time.
I have a suggestion. Stop priorizing and stop trying to set up everything perfectly.
I want you to be average and to do what you love. When you do that, things will naturally fall in the right place and you’re going to be happy with what you’re doing.
We’re here on this planet to enjoy our lives, after all.
So what does being average have to do with being happy? Isn’t it the other way around – who wants to be average?
You might think: If I don’t do perfect work I’m not going to be happy with my work and no-one else will, so why not strive for perfectionism?
Because great work doesn’t just suddenly happen, and in fact, perfect work doesn’t even exist. Perfectionism is just an illusion. Even in the finest work, if we look close enough, we can always find things to improve. Perfectionism is a man-made idea, and if you’re looking for this in your work, you’re setting yourself up for misery from the very beginning. Why would you do that to yourself?
If you give up being perfect and go for being average, I should warn you – you might actually start to love what you’re doing and you might not be able to stop doing what you do, because you enjoy it so much.
Being average is going to open up the world for you. There’s no need to be excellent, so you don’t have to limit yourself and you can just try new things without the pressure.
Wow, imagine all the things you can do! Allow yourself to enjoy and share the things that this amazing year can allow us to do!
And after all, again, our ultimate goal is to be at ease, doing whatever we love. And our time on this planet is truly limited. So why not start now?
Here’s another example on how being average is going to help you:
Let’s say you’re planning to go to gym every morning. If you expect to be perfect with this habit, you have a vision of how you’re going to feel great when you get up rested (after going to bed early beforehand), how you’re going to do it every morning, you’re going to lift more than ever before and you’re going to get up feeling motivated.
So let’s imagine you getting up at 5 am now and feeling miserable, hating yourself for forcing yourself up.
That wasn’t part of the plan! Your body worked against you. You failed from the moment you opened your eyes. So you tell yourself:
”This is not what I want after all, I’ll find another way, this won’t work because my body won’t do well at gym if I’m this tired.”
You will begin to think about reasons that talk you out from the perfect plan. Because if a plan is perfect, it doesn’t fit well with feeling absolute crap. So, what ended up happening was: you failed.
Let’s instead thiNK about it this way: you’re now going to be average at this gym thing. So you’re going to get up, you’re going to hate yourself for forcing yourself to do this against your will and your workout might not be that great because you’re going there tired. But because you’re average, that’s okay.
So you drag yourself out of bed, go to bus, look average with your tired face, feel average, walk half-blindly to the gym because your saggy eyes just can’t stay fully open, you put on some of your favourite music…
And before you know it, you’re there having the time of your life. You’re the only one there. You can dance around. You don’t have to do a workout where you lift the most weight you’ve ever lift. You can just do the kind of moves and lifts that feel good to you at that moment. Maybe some things that go well with the music. You can look like an idiot, and it doesn’t matter.
You might even want to say, it’s perfect.
Do more of the things you love, and be average. And I promise you, it will be an amazing year for you.
I wish you the very best for 2020!